From Chapter 7 ofÂ Earth Life ChallengesÂ is theÂ third book in the Collective’sÂ Fifth Dimensional Life series.
“On Releasing an Attachment to a Loved One”
Question:Â As I watch everything fall apart around meâ€”people dying, going away, marriages ending in a lot of brutal painful ways, I still feel such an attachment to someone who was a catalyst for much of the pain I carry.
Is it necessary for my advancement? After years of trying, I am wondering, how do I let go and accept that this person is not a part of my future, and truly be free to start a new path?
The Collective:Â We would say, that it is important to remember that your life experience is based on many thingsâ€”and that many of the energies, ideas, preferences, and feelings you carry are notÂ you, exactly.
As we note in other chapters, each person carries a powerful legacy behind them of ancestral energies, patterns, belief structures, experiences, traditions, tendenciesâ€”a long list of influences that most people mistakenly believe themselves to be free of, because “that’s all in the past. And I’m the progressive one in my family.”
Indeed, you may be a progressive thinker, yet still be burdened by the trauma experienced by those in your family. That suffered by the children in the family, or by the women, or the men. Those tendencies will pass on to you uninterrupted if allowed to. You are not yet so far out of the third dimension that its many traps and patterns are beyond your experience.
Your immediate family likewise handed on to you certain tendencies, mental and emotional traps, addictions (these come in a wide range of guises), and beliefs about the nature of reality. These are so natural to you, having been taken on by you from the womb onward, that you are rarely even aware that they are there. They tend to determine the shape of your day by deciding what you believe to be possibleâ€”about work, health, relationships, and other areasâ€”because they shape your beliefs and self-concepts.
You exist in the world as a bundle of influences and presences.
Your culture and all its various forms of programming are another source of patterning. The media is a programming tool, and used for little else, though certainly, other higher and more positive messaging and energy codes do get through to the masses. Yet far more influential has been the programming to “do as you are told” and “view the Universe this way.” Though that is now on the wane, that was still the case as you were a child and evolving into an adult.
Past life experiences, and past life associations with certain persons whom you have met again in this life, are another area of influence regarding how you feel about life, and how you view anyone you love in this lifetime.
Chances are great that you are also not the only presence inhabiting your body. It is the rare human being who does not have entity attachments or interferences of one kind or anotherâ€”an ancestor or deceased family member, a lower entity or deceased person seeking an energy source and physical body to inhabit.
Other interferences include energy formsâ€”thoughts and emotions which may not have an individual consciousness, yet still inhabit whole parts of your energies, whether you created them or not. Earth-based and ET implants and interferences are also still a part of the human experience at present.
And so, due to upbringing and family influence, as well as media, government, education, and their various energy transmissions, your culture and ancestors, your past life experiences, old soul contracts, and energetic interferences of different kinds, you exist in the world as a bundle of influences and presences.
Most of these are not your own. You would never choose to carry them if you were fully aware of them.
Human beings are rarely aware of all that is working on them and stealing their energy each day, each hour they are on the Earth, and these beings and programs are aware of that unawareness.
It gives them all the more room to inhabit as they please, and to direct your actions, thoughts, feelings, reactions, beliefs, and inner ethics.
Yet all is not lost, regarding how you feel about life, whether in relationships, physical death, loss and abandonment, lost love, or any other topic that is pulling your energy down to where you feel lost, except for those times when you anchor yourself in the presence and loving attention of another.
You chose to come forward at this time not to feel bad about life, but to feel joyful about it.
As we have noted elsewhere, there is no pain that is necessary for your evolvement, though many have chosen to learn in that way. We would, if we were in human form, take active steps to release the idea that pain and struggle are necessary for advancement of any kind. Even tough physical exercise, grueling academic study, and the rigors of raising children can have their own kind of joy, in the perseverance and focus they require.
They can also be motivated by Love, not merely self-discipline or duty.
There are many ways to step up and reclaim more and more each day the beautiful Divine Being you areâ€”the person you came to Ascend into while still physically on the Earth. You chose to come forward at this time not to feel bad about life, but to feel joyful about it.
The conundrum comes when you are given the message, while still at a young age, that romantic Love is the point of life. You are told that you should seek a Love that makes you feel at home in life in ways you have never fully felt before, and that assures you how wonderful you are.
The training human beings receive from films and popular songs are two powerful influences. They affect most people starting very early in life, informing you that to love someone romantically is the pinnacle of existence (unless one is fighting in a war, and even then, you will note that a romance is often woven into the war story). This tends to keep people trapped in drama, their hopefulness never quite fulfilled.
That is the Love you are seeking, but we will say that that is not a romantic Love. The Love that offers complete assurance is based in the high heart, and begins first within yourself, for yourself. Otherwise you will forever seek it outwardly, which always leads to disappointment at some time or another.
Romantic Love, though it offers some forms of fulfillment, is not meant to define or fulfill you. Expecting such will only lead you to blame yourself or the other person for not providing Love fully and in ways that fulfill your expectations indefinitely.
You are the one permanent fixture in your life, dear one, and no one else. You as the representation of Divine Love in human form. All else will fall away, in its time.
You have been taught to seek after and to worship outer forms, whether that comes in the shape of material wealth, fulfilling work life, or fulfillment from romantic love and/or family life. And all of those things are fine and beautiful in their own way. But they are not the true heart of what you are seeking. They are individual, outer expressions of it, but they are not the core, and they are not lasting.
Even a highly evolved person can fall hopelessly in love with someone who is not quite right for them, and who leaves at some point, because things are not working out. Or who is wonderfully right for them, but who leaves this Earth far sooner ever expected.
Outer situations are only outpicturing. They are holographic forms, and not anywhere near so “real” as everyone assumes. They shift and fluctuate, and after a while, fade or transform. The person who does not know self-Love and self-supporting kindness will find that “the one” they have decided will finally fill that gaping hole within them can only offer them so much Love and reassurance.
In this Universe, everything constantly moves forward at a great pace. On the Earth at present, that pace is quickening far more than in the past. Change is the only constant, as they say, except that it occurs many times faster now than in Earth’s pastÂ . . .Â
Copyright 2018, Caroline Oceana Ryan
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